Forever friends

By Fatima K - October 11, 2013

Some years back - more than five years ago - I received a message which read something like this: 

"I'm deleting you from my friends list because we hardly talk any more."

It was in the days of msn messenger, and didn't really make a different to me because it was just an anonymous stranger that I'd accepted because of the cool email address. I didn't know the person, and realistically would never get to
know the person - it was just one less email address from my contact list. 

I hadn't heard anything like this again until recently, when a friend mentioned that she was facing a dilemma - she hadn't talked to a friend in a while and so....their friendship was being put on the line. For some reason, after I heard this, I felt the need to remind her that I am always there, and no matter how long it takes me to text back, I'll always be there - albeit a little late!  

Her reasons for not being able to be a 'good friend' are similar to mine - we no longer see the other person everyday at school/college/university like we used to. But the truth is, our lives change so much that today is different from yesterday. 

Take last week; I went out with two of my best friends from sixth form, and it didn't matter that we hadn't seen each other for a few months - what mattered is that we finally met! And even longer than that - a very close friend of mine from work moved away 8 months ago - we finally managed to meet two weeks ago! And on both occasions, we all had a good time. 

So people, my message to you is this; time is constant, the clock is always ticking and passes so quickly that we don't always notice the hours that slip away. But this should not, in anyway, make our friendships decrease! 

I know this isn't always the case - people change; you've changed and so have I - then letting go is often better than holding on.

Top tip: Knowing someone is a real friend = not seeing them in ages and still being able to pick up where you left off! 

What at your views on friendships? Comment below to let me know :) 

Keep reading, F x
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  1. This is so true...its a shame some of us allow the "drifting phase" to affect our friendships all together. Great post!

    1. I think it's something we all face at some point, but how we handle the situation is what defines our friendships and feelings!
      Thanks for reading!

  2. Great post! So true......... Keep writing :) Ellen x

  3. Brilliant blog Fatima :) I think as you get older you stress out less about seeing your friends all the time and not seeing them meaning that you're not really friends anymore. Like you say, a good friend is someone tht you can pick things up with after not seeing each other for a bit, and still feel connected to.

    1. Thank you! :) and I'm glad you read it! :) you may like my two other posts too because they are work related :) Also, I see you have a blog! shall definately check it out!

      Fatima x

  4. I'm guilty of not having read your blog in a while, but because of that, I could see the stark difference easily - you've improved so much! Aside from having an interesting story, the structure and presentation of your thoughts are so much better now. Never stop writing :)


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