Friday, 20 November 2015

Confessions of a Front-Stabbing Friend #1

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It sucks right, this whole 'being a good friend' business. Last week my best friend told me that I don't express my feelings very well. That's nothing new, I knew that already. Ask me how I feel about something and immediately I'll answer 'it's ok', 'I'm ok', 'fine'. They are my three favourite answers. But she's right, these answers don't tell you anything important, heck they don't even mean anything most of the time. They are simply used by me to ward of more questions. I'm an expert at that.

Apparently she doesn't mind this tho, she said at times it's frustrating but eventually I, in my own time, let her know. Anyway, this doesn't really bother me because it's true. Every person is different and I like it that way. How boring would it be if we were all the same? Yuk! What does bother me is that this isn't the first time I've been told this. That's when I start to think that maybe I should go round telling people exactly how I feel. At least that way people know what I'm thinking?!

Only there's one teeny tiny flaw to this plan - if I were to do this, I'd offend a lot of people. Sometimes even I don't like what I'm thinking! What a load of malarky. What I do know is this, if I have a problem, I'll let you know. See, I'm one of those people that would rather say it to your face than behind our back. I'm a front stabbing-friend. That's ok right?!
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What's a front-stabbing friend you ask? Well, I'll explain:

You know that people you don't like stab you in the back, well I believe people who like you do the same, but in the front. Only this time it's in the front because they mean well, they want to stop you from getting hurt. That's what I've been telling myself anyway. How else do you justify telling someone you like something that isn't necessarily very pleasant? But only if it's something they need to know.

So here it is. This is, what I'm calling, the Confessions of a Front-Stabbing Friend. Let's do this! You want feelings, I'll give you feelings. 

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p.s Greeting everyone! Hope you are all well. So I've decided to try something a bit different and what you read above is the start of that. It's pretty much all FICTION - only it may be inspired by a few true events :) I'll let you know. Please do comment with your thoughts!


7 comments:

  1. I think a front stabbing friend would be a lot better rather than those who'd just stab you hard at the back.
    Ooh! Your idea sounds exciting! Do it, girrrrrl!!!

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    1. It does! And thank you! I;m looking forwards to giving writing more fiction a go :) xx

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  2. I read something online yesterday that went like this: “Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:
    At the first gate, ask yourself “Is is true?”
    At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”
    At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”
    Sometimes we think we are obliged to be brutally honest, when in fact are words can do more harm than good. I think by applying the above three criterion to our speech we can temper harsh truthful proclamations with kindness and empathy.

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    1. That's true - I also read this last week :) such wise advice!

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  3. I'm the same as you sis. Trouble is if you do tell people your mind they will twist it into more than it is and probably end up accusing you of saying more or misinterpreting what you say even though you are so blunt. What I've learned is that the world can't take straight forward people most of the time. It's a hard truth. Be prepared to lose some friends if you do it. I like to practice the hadith that says whoever fears Allah and the last day speak good or keep silent, however sometimes you just get pushed over the edge. But who knows maybe your friends can take it, if you try it let me know how it goes!

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    1. It's often easier to keep quite but i think there are times when you do need to be honest rather than quiet. Everyone is different and react to things in different ways :)

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  4. The world always puts a lot of demands on us to be expressive. Whether they say it or not, people always want an expressive person. I am working on being 100% expressive. But ... not about giving away my own personal feelings. I reserve them for myself. I am working on telling people who I think they are and what I think they are up to to their faces. That keeps it very simple, I believe. You're right that i may become a walking-talking offense gun if I do that. But what is the use of toxic relationships? It is better to spill the bitter truth out and draw the line.

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